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Posts from the ‘Connection’ Category

Volunteering: New Ways To Do Good

11 ways to use your skills to do good.

Find out more here.

And, in timely fashion, the Tourism Authority of Thailand is currently promoting their Ultimate Moments Campaign – where you can win a volunteer vacation to Thailand.

For more information on Volunteering In Thailand.

I’ll be writing more about my recent volunteering experiences in Australia.

Over-connected?

Feeling a little over-connected lately? Too many emails, too much Facebook, too many tweets?  Are you yearning for a quiet, spacious place where the mind can wander free?  Check out this article on how to stay connected without being overwhelmed.

Hamlet’s Blackberry

Hitchhiking Revival!

I’ve always thought that hitchhiking is a brilliant way to get around. Why not use up our spare space in cars to give others a lift?  When I was at university it was commonplace to see hitchhikers on the road. I even used to pick them up myself now and then. Unfortunately, as the years have passed, the hikers have faded away as people became more and more wary of their safety – both drivers and hikers alike.

Luckily, it looks like the brilliant way to move around might be making a come back.

Check it out more here.

 

10 Ways To Love Where You Live

Ten great ways to build an inspiring community.

10 Ways

A Better Way To Say Sorry

We all need to say sorry now and then. Unfortunately, not many of us really know how to do it properly. How do you say sorry in a way that works for you and those your apologizing to?

This article is a bit of a tear jerker  – and will help you, your friends, and your kids, learn how to apologize well.

A Better Way To Say Sorry

Want to Do Some Good But Don’t Know How?

It’s great to see business people using their creative genius for good!  These two advertising whizzes have come up with a wonderful way to help connect those with something to give to those in need. And to top it all off, they’ve set it up so others can easily follow their great example.

All you have to do is take the pledge and apply to host a store on www.thestreetstore.org. You will then receive a dropbox link with access to all of The Street Store designs for t-shirts, marketing materials, and a full how-to guide!

For more information click here.

22 Tips To Better Care for Introverts and Extroverts

A man should not strive to eliminate his complexes but to get into accord with them: they are legitimately what directs his conduct in the world. –Sigmund Freud

For the difference between introverts and extroverts and some tips on how to deal with each mode of operating – read here.

 

Facebook: Friend Or Foe

Let me begin with one simple question. How much time do you spend on Facebook each day?

No really, how much time?  Write it down, then multiple the amount by seven days of the week.  Now how much time it is?

It seems that everywhere I go these days people are on Facebook. And it doesn’t matter which country, what time of day, or whether people are at work or home – they’re on Facebook.

I had a very bizarre experience of the Facebook epidemic in December last year.  I was in Africa for work, and while traveling between two African nations, and at border control, I was able to see all the customs staff (there were only about six of them) at their workstations through a glass window.  The first thing I noticed was that all the computers were showing Facebook Pages.  They weren’t checking passports or doing customs administration, they were all on Facebook. It was quite surreal.

I do wonder if some of us are using Facebook as an escape from our lives, our work, and possibly from even from having to think at all.  As if we’re not living in enough confusion already, we’re now adding another layer of unreality.

Some things to consider:

1.     The fakeness factor

Have you noticed that posts on Facebook are almost always positive. Some people are so positive that you have to wonder what drugs they’re taking. No one ever shares when they are having a bad day. It’s all good news. This is not real life.

2.    The time factor

How much time are you spending on Facebook each week?  What other things could you be doing with that time?  You want more free time – cut out some Facebook time.

3.    The connection factor

A lot of people feel connected by being on Facebook.  They like one of their friends’ post or write a brief comment.  This is not much of a connection. How much genuine connection are you having with other people?  How often are you meeting people face to face?  How long has it been since you sent a decent length email to a friend overseas or a family member.  And yes, you can use Facebook to do this.  I am all for using the messaging service as an alternative to email.

4.    The comparison factor

Facebook has become just another means for people to compare themselves to their ‘neighbours’.  The meaning of the phrase ‘keeping up with the Jones’s’ has recently risen to new heights.  We are now able to compare ourselves to others on a daily basis.  And it’s not just a comparison of the house and the car.  It’s now in relation to travel, eating out, babies, work success, etc.  This is not a good thing.

A recent article in the economist tells how Facebook is bad for you.  The article covers a study published by the Public Library of Science that has shown that the more someone uses Facebook, the less satisfied he is with life. Have a read:

http://www.economist.com/news/science-and-technology/21583593-using-social-network-seems-make-people-more-miserable-get-life

Look, I’ll be honest.  I’m not expecting you to stop using Facebook.  I use it, and there are some genuine positives to this social media tool.

I guess the best question is – are you in control of Facebook or is Facebook in control of you?

And here is another recently published article on the subject:

How Facebook Makes Us Unhappy

Empathy vs Sympathy

This is too cute. Check out this three minute video on the difference between empathy and sympathy.

Empathy vs Sympathy

And check out this article for more on empathy and how to cultivate empathy.

What is Empathy?

Are We Losing Our Focus?

This article reviews Daniel Goleman’s new book – Focus: The Hidden Driver of Excellence.  It interestingly covers the importance of mindfulness and the dangers of too much online time.

Are We Losing Our Focus?