What is unworthiness? It’s the experience of having parts of your personality say, “I’m not worthy.” For example, they might say, “I am unworthy of the love that I have in my life, or the wealth that I have.” More commonly, they might say, “I am unworthy of the happiness that I feel.” Thoughts such as “It’s too good to be true,” and “This can’t last forever because it is too good” are experiences of unworthiness. You feel unworthy of what the universe has given you, you feel that you do not deserve it, that the other shoe will fall, and it is only a matter of time before you will get what you really deserve, which will be painful.
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Here is one of the great responses I got to my Happiness is? post. I just love it when people take the time to comment on my blog. And particularly so when the information they provide is so interesting and well thought through. Thanks Josh for your comments, I just had to share, it’s inspiring stuff! Read more
We may believe that getting the things we value will make us happier, but new research shows that cutting back on life’s pleasures helps us to appreciate them more.
And, the Roman Emperor, Marcus Aurelius wrote the treatise ‘The Meditations’, considered to be one of the greatest texts on happiness and living well. This article includes the five most important takeaways from his treatise.
Another great tip from the master of positivity – Martin Seligman.
Every night for the next week, set aside ten minutes before you go to sleep. Write down three things that went well today and why they went well. You may use a journal or your computer to write about the events, but it is important that you have a physical record of what you wrote. The three things need not be earthshaking in importance (“My husband picked up my favorite ice cream for dessert on the way home from work today”), but they can be important (“My sister just gave birth to a healthy baby boy”).
Next to each positive event, answer the question “Why did this happen?” For example, if you wrote that your husband picked up ice cream, write “because my husband is really thoughtful sometimes” or “because I remembered to call him from work and remind him to stop by the grocery store.” Or if you wrote, “My sister just gave birth to a healthy baby boy,” you might pick as the cause … “She did everything right during her pregnancy.”
At the end of the week, see how you feel. If you find it’s making a difference to your mood – then keep doing it.
Wilhelm Reich was a student of Freud’s and a pioneer of early psychoanalysis. In a journal entry dated June 7, 1948, Reich lists his six necessary conditions for creative sanity — it is his aspirational blueprint to the secret of happiness and the life of purpose.
People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be
– Abraham Lincolm
HELLO! And apologies for the long silence. I have just returned to Bangkok from Myanmar where I did a three week Vipassana retreat and a bit of sightseeing. I will write all about it shortly and share my pics.
I thought this article would be a good one to kick off. It’s got a great list of habits that are sure to keep you feeling uplifted. Enjoy.
Check out: 16 Habits
“What makes some people more successful in work and life than others? IQ and work ethic are important, but they don’t tell the whole story. Our emotional intelligence — the way we manage emotions, both our own and those of others — can play a critical role in determining our happiness and success.”